HEY MONDAY
This band is pretty awesome, definitly on my top 5, so check them out sometime :]
So this song is about a girl who knows she doesn’t know how to keep control of herself when drinking. She thinks she knows when to stop, but as she drinks she just keeps going. In this song, the lyrics say that “its just a phase your going though someday you’ll know just what to do.” and for most college kids/ adults, whatever the heck you wanna call us, it is just a phase that we go though. We’re truely independent for the first time in our lives, for the past 18 years most of us have been carefully watched so that we don’t drink, or if we do it has to be done while sneaking around. And its going to hapen just as a challenge, and out of curiousity. But who is going to tell you when to stop. Is it all just a phase that we go through as college students? I am adding to my list of why I think people binge drink, now we are up to
- Peer Pressure
- Walking advertisements
- curiousity/independence
- prohibition for under 21
I think this song (which was written by a 18 year old graduating from high school) shows that there is a problem with people knowing there limits, and this could potentially be a problem. Some people think that they will be okay, but it will take something major to wake them up. they start the night thinking one will be okay, then that turns into more and more and by the end of the night they are completely messed up. But its just a phase, well hopefully.
Interesting thoughts. You know, I think another reason why some college kids start binge drinking (and doing other activities they wouldn’t at home) is because they only follow certain “rules” while they are under the authority of another. Some young people have a mentality that they follow a certain set of rules or beliefs because they HAVE to, or just because it’s what their parents think or believe. Once they’re out on their own, these guidelines aren’t in effect any more because the authority is removed. I think if more young people would start purposing to hold certain beliefs and set guidelines for themselves before moving out, there would be fewer kids who end up drinking uncontrollably or getting mixed up in other troubles when they move out on their own.
~Bethany
P.S. Nice blog.
great band; nice insight
It all comes down to self-control. As Bethany said, when students live for so long under the control of parents or some other authorotive figure, if they do not establish their own sense of self-control, then when that figure is no longer there, things happen. Bethany is completely correct in that students should try to develop thier personal guidelines prior to living on their own. Yet forming these guidelines isn’t always enough. Students need to possess the personal conviction to adhere to them and to be able to firmy say “no” should the situation arise.
It’s not necessarily a set stage in life. If someone is responsible enough in the first place they won’t ever get out of hand. Prevention is the best way to avoid problems, but I do agree that some people are taken away by the lack of parental oversight on what they do in college.
I think that it is somewhat of a phase. Our front lobe which controls our judgment and recognizing consequences of future actions, is under reconstruction in teen years and doesn’t reach full maturity till around the age of 25.